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Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Lots of Travel, Lots of Fun

The unexpected is always more fun.

Lots of travel in 2014 - this is not something I had expected because of the water tight, hectic schedule that is a part of my life. Like a bolt from the blue, travel simply happened...just like that. And the best part of my trip to Sydney is that I am getting lots of time to spend and enjoy with my nephew Vihaan, whom I have just seen fleetingly across the last few years. This isn't a guilt trip. It's an unexpected gift from God, bringing me lots of happiness and love. Thank you, God and dear Angels.

And I am loving every minute, as if it's a delicious feast to savor.



Saturday, September 20, 2014

Daawat-e-Ishq review: Aditya Roy Kapoor and Parineeti Chopra showcase memorable moments in this Love-Dhokha Story

Daawat-e-Ishq is not about a love story that revolves around food. It is about Love and Dhokha. It is about a young girl's 'daring to dream' story. Are you ready for this?



Daawat-e-Ishq: Love, Dowry and Dhokha

The opening scene in Daawat-e-Ishq takes you straight into a ‘bride seeing’ ceremony in Hyderabad. The boy’s mother looks her nose down at everything offered. It’s the typical “no girl is ever good enough for my son” scene that is shown.  The prospective bride is Gulrez Khadir (starring Parineeti), who is a sales girl in a shoe shop. She has many dreams: of going to the US to study fashion design, of designing her own shoes and opening a shoe shop….yes, she is street smart, ambitious, full of amazing energy and she has a “weak spot for men who speak English well.” So, when the boy and girl get a chance to talk alone, all hell breaks loose!
Gulrez Khadir is incensed that the prospective groom asked her if she watched “beelue” films instead of pronouncing it correctly as “blue.” She finds out that he had lied about  his educational qualifications too. 
Gulrez’s father, (starring Anupam Kher) is a clerk. He is afraid of his daughter’s BIG dreams which he sees as ‘unrealistic.’ His daughter's dream of making it big almost comes true when she falls in love with a suave, English speaking young guy who seems to be deeply in love with her too. He is all set to pursue his MBA in Kalamazoo and she is already dreaming of her life there. His parents, who profess to be very forward thinking, well-to-do, suave and educated, tell Gulrez and her father, they are fine with their son marrying whoever they want…but they need “help” so that their son can pursue MBA in the US. All the prospective bride's father has to do is to “help” by depositing 80 lakh rupees for their son’s education.
Gulrez is heartbroken that the guy she is in love with did not have the guts to question his parents when they made this demand. Her question to him is, “You and I fell in love and we want to get married to each other. Why are we talking about our marriage in terms of dowry?"
Then Gulrez realizes the fundamental fact of LOVE IN INDIA: whether arranged or love, the girl’s family always has to pay the highest price for it. Whether it is called a ‘list,’ a ‘help,’ 'gold' or 'property,' it is all pointing to one ugly thing: DOWRY.
Daawat-e-Ishq: Serving the Sweet Dish of Revenge 
So, Gulrez (called as Gullu) decides to fulfill her dream of going to the US and making it big as a shoe designer. She convinces her very reluctant father that it’s now their turn to make prospective bridegrooms and their families pay for the humiliation they have been through. They travel to Lucknow by posing as very rich NRIs who are looking to “shortlist bridegrooms.” 
Gulrez changes her name to Sania Habibullah from Dubai. And now it is the father-daughter duo's turn to put bridegrooms and their parents under scrutiny.


Among those who are chosen to be interviewed, there is Tariq Haidar (starring Aditya Roy Kapoor) who owns Lucknow’s most popular kabab joint. He is a high school drop out who speaks English badly, has a crude manner of talking, is a down to earth man for some one who is very rich and he falls deeply in love with Sania Habibullah. Her plan is to trick him into marrying her and then file a fake case against him citing section 498 A.
Now, citing section 498 A has been a clever move to bring in an element of pushing awareness around a social cause. The glitch is this - the movie highlights how the section can be exploited rather than how women can use it to protect themselves from dowry harassment. Law abiding citizens may not appreciate this "twist in legislative intent" that the film seems to focus on.
Tariq and Sania have nothing in common but there is a chemistry between them that blossoms. Here’s where the story loses its plot, becomes predictable and turns cheesy.
Daawat-e-Ishq: What I Liked 
In Daawat-e-Ishq, let me tell you what I really liked: 
1. Brilliant performance by Aditya Roy Kapoor as Tariq Haidar - a high school drop out who cannot speak English fluently. He was just amazing in terms of capturing the raw, refreshing spirit of Tariq Haidar! The movie shows that though Tariq is not suave, sophisticated or educated, he knows how to respect a woman in the manner befitting a real man unlike a 'city' guy. 

2. Natural, effortless acting by Parineeti in her portrayal of 'Gullu' - the ambitious sales girl who has a mind of her own and when she is determined to get something, nothing can stop her.

3. Several memorable moments in the movie such as where Tariq Haidar tries to woo Gullu by serving her food in the presence of his parents, how he has a conversation with her where he tells her that her real value is not in the dowry she brings but her beauty, her personality, charm and intelligence.

4. It is a pleasure to see the refreshing vignettes of Lucknow and Hyderabad. The heritage status, diversity and cultural richness of these two places are well portrayed. There has been a clear and note worthy effort to steer clear of "dolled up" landscapes. Every scene is clearly set in sync with the city and what it represents.


5. The music has a rare life that it breathes into the story. There are no fancy landscapes, exotic locations or make believe lands. Each song matches the mood of the situation and the protagonists breathe life into their characters with every song.  



Daawat-e-Ishq is an entertaining love story that is served with love and a dash of cheesy predictability. Watch it with your loved ones and enjoy the performances by its lead actors and have fun listening to the songs too!

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Seven Exceptional Posts That Will Motivate You to Own Your Choices in a Fast Changing World

Here you go with my favorite posts for this month’s reading list:


Is there a connection between writers and pubs? YES, says Billy Wilder. Head out to ScotlandsPubsandBars.co.uk, a great resource detailing dozens of pubs with connections to music, industry, literature, sport, architecture and more. Sounds like fun, doesn't it? 

If you aren’t tipsy yet, you have to read: Vidya Sury’s thoughts on the book “The World Has Changed: Conversations with Alice Walker”

Alice Walker’s book 'The Color Purple' had given me sleepless nights because of the heart wrenching narrative. 

Another heart-wrenching post is from Vishnu about  the “We own you” mindset of Indian parents wherein “your success is their success, your failure is theirs, your income is theirs….” For those of us who are in the denial mode, just look around. You will see this popping up everywhere – in schools, at PTA meetings, in family conversations.  Sadly, it is our children who suffer the emotional impact of our expectations. So, if you are a parent or planning to be one, Vishnu’s post is a MUST READ. 

Now I want you to pause whatever you are doing, take a deep breath, exhale and relax. It's a beautiful day outside - can you feel the golden sunshine embracing you, reminding you of all the love and friends who fill your life with happiness. 

Nothing in life is MORE IMPORTANT than realizing you own your choices, your life and your power to change whatever you are going through now. 

Be HAPPY - no matter what. 

You can also BOOST your mood with Five Exceptional Posts That Will Motivate You Today and Anupama Prakash's excellent book review on Bird Song - A Novel of Love and War by Sebastian Faulks.


And while you are it, make yourself this yummylicious Oreo shake from Rak's Kitchen. You'll LOVE it!

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Thursday, September 4, 2014

Would you pick up a book of erotic short stories?

I had begun reading an unusual book called 'blue: The Tranquebar Book of Erotic Stories from Sri Lanka' edited by Ameena Hussein. It is recommended as a break-through in Sri Lankan writing. Here's a book review of it by Sharanya Manivannan.

This is definitely not a genre I read. But my rationale for picking this up was: Why not just see another person's perspective about an aspect of life that you know nothing about? 

The problem is: As a reader, I felt a complete disconnect as I began reading this book. I could not understand what made so many young writers put in so much effort to write this kind of fiction. This book, no matter what the reviews say, is not a milestone in Sri Lankan writing. I couldn't tolerate it at all.

Coming back to the genre of erotic books, the last book I read was 'Autobiography of a Sex Worker' by a Malayali woman - this was at least three years ago. After reading the book, I found myself able to empathize with sex workers in India. I saw a different world that shocked my sensibility and yet I began to feel for these women.

You may surprise someone by seeing real life and real people differently. That's one of the reasons I love to read. When I read, I don't 'judge' people. I love and accept them. I question their choices out of curiosity and not necessarily to be critical of them.

Most importantly, you become so involved with the characters and their lives that you begin to rework your perspective on people, their lives and choices.

We need more stories - erotic or not - to carry us away into a world of imagination. After all, it is only during these times that your creative spirit is rediscovered and savored.   



How do you like to explore newness and creativity - be it in books, films, stories you read? How open are you to "shocking" stories and how does it change the way you relate to real happenings in the real world?
I would love to know your thoughts.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

This Beautiful Life

The year 2014, when it first began to unfold, promised me nothing and gave me no reason to hope. Fortunately, 2014 isn't anything like I expected it to be. 

In 2013, I felt a hundred years old, really. I expected to feel worse at the beginning of the new year. But funny thing is, I didn't. 

At a professional level, this has been my best year. At a personal level, I have begun to protect my fence of happiness and growth. I am not letting in people who make me feel negative about myself. The need to be surrounded by those who care and love me has outweighed everything else this year and yes, it has paid off in a big way. 

I feel as though I can take on the world and conquer it with just a smile.  I would also like to believe that my best years have just begun as amazing, beautiful things are happening in my life.

My new home is slowly getting ready and should be ready early next year. You know, it's a really small space in terms of square feet but the view is amazing. One rainy morning, I went to that site, conquered my fears of slipping way down into a cavern below and found the courage to climb through some very rough terrain to experience the view of my new home.

What I saw filled me with such joy and pleasure - I have no words. Thank you, God - but can you please speed up the process a bit? I am SO excited and eager to move into a new beginning in my life.

Yet in my heart, that's my dream home and it means everything to me. 

Then, in my personal life - I don't want to talk about the changes there because, well, it's too personal. But all I can say is this: the angels are protectively guiding me, the spirit guides are nudging me to do what brings me happiness and  I have begun to write with a natural tempo after many, many years of block.

I sat down and began to look over my previously published writings without any sense of attachment to the words. Instantly, I knew what I could have done better. Yet I felt better and not worse. Becoming older is helping me to find my voice and place as a writer. I do not deny my age. 

But what I feel differently now is that as I grow older, I feel more beautiful and divine from within - my soul is radiant and shining forth with an illumination that is helping me to see a bigger picture of where I want to be.

Here's a quote from Brene Brown that inspires me:

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it's a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands. The people who love me will be there regardless of the outcome within arm's reach. This realization changed everything.


More than anything else, I have begun to dream and to hope with an abandon that is poetic. And yes, my life is an ebbing sea ahead of me. 

But at sunset, the sea  is full of grandeur, splendor and looks most enchanting as it dies with the sun and for me, I know that is truly my moment of glory, fleeting though it may be.

Life's beautiful. I am grateful for it to God, my dearest family and closest friends every day.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Anupama Prakash's Book Review: Bird Song – A Novel of Love and War by Sebastian Faulks

♥♥ This is the first Guest Post on Petals!. I thank Anupama Prakash with all my heart for writing this book review for Petals!  ♥♥

So, honestly I picked this book for the lame reason that it has been made into a mini-series and was featured on Masterpiece Theatre, a program close to my heart. Masterpiece Theatre, didn’t let me down and Sebastian Faulks’ s page turner outdid expectations.

Starting off pre World War 1 in France, we are quickly entwined in the life of Stephen Wraysford, the protagonist as he settles down as a guest in the Azaire household. Stephen, an orphan, is sent by his benefactor to learn the textile business from Monsieur Azaire. 



Stephen’s character unravels beautifully through the book, subtle personality nuances mingled with straight forward biographical detail, bringing this strong in convictions yet vulnerable in emotions, young man(he is barely 20 when the book begins) to life in our imaginations.

It’s easy to identify and sympathize with Stephen and I cheered him on as he flirts with and then has an affair with the enchanting yet unhappy lady of the house, Isabelle Azaire. 

Madame Azaire, is portrayed as an intrinsically free spirited, independent woman with very little opportunity to explore this side of her personality under first, her overbearing father and then her insecure husband.

Even though Stephen and Isabelle’s love story ends prematurely in the first part of the book, the ferocious intensity of having loved and lost , shapes the rest of Stephen’s experiences so much so that even the horrendous experiences of War are mere events superimposed on this love story. 

I have watched many War movies in the past and have been greatly affected by them but none come close to the emotions of horror Sebastian Faulks dredged up in me. People with weak sensibilities be warned this is not one for the faint hearted. The fears and foibles of ordinary folk, thrust into the extraordinary situation of a war have been dealt with, with brazenness. 

Man’s baser instincts aroused by the need to survive, co- habitating with the immense compassion and love that we are capable of feeling toward our fellow beings have been explored through parallel stories.

The author adds another dimension to this tale of Love and War, by taking the story to the 1970’s where we are introduced to Elizabeth, Stephen’s granddaughter. Elizabeth, is a successful career woman, who is looking for more meaning to her life and decided to delve into the past to begin to find it.

Personally, I was unhappy with this digression by the author. Elizabeth’s character seems like it was hastily thrown together by the author and adds, not sure what, to a book that is already filled to the brim with feelings and emotions.

The book ends with a simplicity that is welcomed after the upheavels of love and loss, death and destruction. Stephen goes on to lead a simple happy life after the War and Elizabeth finds stability and meaning to her life. 

About Anupama Prakash: 'Heard somewhere that in order to be a good writer , the most important quality required is that you be an avid reader, and I'm going with that!'  You can also follow Anupama Prakash on Twitter.

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Friday, August 22, 2014

A Book Review: Ratna Vira's Debut Novel, Daughter by Court Order

It happened to be one of those interesting days when I had tea with a well-known journalist. One thing she told me stayed in my mind, “I am a single mother by choice. But what I didn’t realize is that it’s so hard to get your child’s respect when you are a single mother. No matter how sincerely you try, you seem to fall short somewhere.

This story is about a single mother's fight for justice.

Daughter by Court Order: Story & Characterization
Ratna Vira’s debut novel, Daughter By Court Order, is a shocking, heart touching story of a girl called Arnie (Aranya is her full name) who grows up emotionally and physically abused by her celebrity mother. This is about her fight for justice.


This story has some very ‘desi’ inspired characters such as Arnie’s great dadaji who had been a powerful CM and her phua  Baby Singh. Throughout her life, it is dadaji and phua who protect her. Their traits and characterization are so well-structured that you feel as though you can see them right in front of you.

Daughter by Court Order: The BIG Legal Tangle
At the beginning of the story, Arnie is a single, working mother to two children. She gets to know from her phua  about an ongoing property dispute for the house she had grown up in. The case revolves around her dadaji's will. What seems like a straight forward case is a highly volatile one that requires a great legal strategy to navigate through.

Daughter by Court Order: What I Liked about Ratna Vira's Debut Novel
It is the first time I am reading an Indian novel that takes you into the heart of a protagonist whose mother hates the sight of her, leaves her out of the family tree and eventually goes to the extent of threatening her! 

Then, when the battle turns ugly, it is the protagonist’s friends, lawyers and ex-husband who help her to fight her influential, powerful mother. There is a clear departure from the usual ‘family’ formula in this novel. Instead, it mirrors the changing Indian society and relationships. It’s no longer ‘family’ that protects the daughter, it’s her closely cultivated networks that protect her today.

Another positive spin pertains to a husband and wife, who divorced under very bitter circumstances, but help to fight each other’s battles without feeling attracted to one another. These are signs of mature adults in a fast maturing Indian society – we don’t see such responsible couples around us. This aspect, so well depicted in this novel, mirrors a noteworthy aspect about marital relationships in India.

In most Indian novels that delve into legal disputes, the lawyers are shown as lazy, careless and manipulative people. This novel showed a balanced perspective – it showed lawyers who exploit, lawyers who avoid, lawyers who work according to the fee they get and lawyers who are confident enough of turning the odds by trying to separate the truth from the stacks of lies they have to wade through. It also appreciate the role of impartial, honest judges right from the lower court to the higher court. These tiny details make a big difference to the telling of a story. 

That sense of Arnie’s story ‘being real’ is what made me finish reading this book at one go. 

However, the author could have done a lot more to enhance the literary crafting of the book. It’s a plain, well-told, direct story.  Repeated references to lyrics of favorite songs could have been avoided. There, you can sense, a rawness and a blurring to the art of telling a tale and writing a story.

But we all love a good fight story against injustice and evil, don’t we? That’s exactly why you have to read Ratna Vira’s Daughter by Court Order!

If you liked this book review, do read these too: 

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Five Awesome Ways to Improve Whatever You Do

Here's an eclectic selection of posts that I read and enjoyed from around the web. I just knew that I had to share it with you!

We all look forward to improvement in everything we do. 

From keeping the kitchen clean, finding more storage space to keep our kid’s toys to writing a winning entry for a writer’s contest, this month’s collection has a bit of everything for you. You can also boost your mood with this blog post: Five Exceptional Posts That Will Motivate You Today.
  
So, grab a seat, get your morning cup of tea/coffee and imagine this is your Sunday brunch. Ready to read?

                                                [Image Courtesy: http://unsplash.com/]
Calm the Mind
A calm mind holds the key to a happy, productive day. Maybe this post will help you to work towards it. Read the full post here.  If you enjoy meditation and like to experiment with different techniques, Raja Yoga may interest you as it focuses on how observation, intuition, discrimination and experience. This means that everything you learn in Raja yoga is based on direct experience.

Find Space and Get More Organized
Are you struggling to find storage space? Here are some funky storage ideas to watch out for in Andrea's Notebook! To get more out of your bathroom space, read this post. 

Cleanliness First
‘Cleaning the Fridge’ is one of their most ‘postponed, not looking-forward-to-it tasks.’ So, make time to clean your fridge methodically. To get your kitchen more organized, spic and span, you may want to read this.

Pitch in, Help Others in Little Ways
This blog post by A Vishwanathan has a powerful takeaway: “We don’t lack the intent to be useful or to serve, but we simply don’t have the time. Our acts can be random and small – helping an elderly person, making way for a lady to sit on the bus, etc . We don’t even need to make a special effort. Just look around, in our own circles of immediate influence, we will find people who need help but are not asking for it…they are just there, fellow voyagers, like you and me, who are struggling with their own daily challenges through Life.” 

Keep Learning New Techniques
Love to write? Read Rob Cubbon's Best Writing Tip and Sara Backer's ‘inside scoop on how to get the best consideration in a big writing contest.’ You may want to jot down most of these useful points. 

Try these tips, feel free to give feedback and share the links of any interesting posts that you have read recently. 

Monday, August 11, 2014

Celebrations, Pretensions and Disengagement in Relationships

Raksha Bandhan celebrations are over. But pretensions have not. Thankfully, not everyone pretends. But this isn't just about Raksha Bandhan at all - it's happening across all occasions and festivals.

The young domestic help who comes and cleans my home every morning had a bright smile today. She said, proudly, “My brother took me to a shop and asked me to choose three salwar suit materials. This happens only once a year. So, I bought three materials and each cost a thousand rupees. And he also bought me two sarees and gave me some money. This happens only once a year but I feel so happy.

Don’t get me wrong. This is not a one-incident rant. I have spoken to several people before putting out this post. Everyone had a list of material gifts they mentioned with delight, nothing to say about sweet, childhood memories with their brother. I find that very odd.

I am not being judgmental about anyone. But increasingly, I get the feeling that we are becoming a ‘what-can-I-get-from-the-other-person-because-it-is-my-right’ community. That doesn’t feel right to me, especially not in family relationships.

That reminds me of a peculiar work place culture I was struggling to understand ten years ago. I am still struggling to understand it. The women – highly educated, financially independent and liberal in their outlook – constantly ‘negotiated’ what they wanted from their partner for their ‘date anniversary’ and ‘wedding anniversary’ and if it didn’t cost their partner at least 50K, that would be the end of the relationship or so the threats implied. When women put such numeric values on their sense of worth, I feel we, as women, demean ourselves, beyond words.

What appalls me now and then is that this yardstick is fast becoming the norm across all relationships. What you give or rather how much you can give becomes the barometer of a relationship’s progression thereon. 

I am all for celebrating beliefs, traditions and festive occasions that bring people closer and together. But I am definitely opposed to the increasing pretensions that are flooding our lives through mediums that include Facebook, WhatsApp and so on.

How do I know people are pretending? Lets put it this way – we define our relationships with people based on their actions and interactions with us.

Suppose my interactions with you are consistently nasty, mean, judgmental and sarcastic in real life but I send you the sweetest greetings on Facebook or WhatsApp, which one would appear more real to you? Which one do you choose to trust?

Whom would you trust - the ‘online’ me or the ‘offline’ me? What is the actual purpose of sending out such ‘social’ messages – a kind of social marketing of how good/expert one is? But the question is also this: for how long, does one person 'fool' the other on networks? 

Increasingly, I see people whom I know very well in real life pretend to be what they are not to those in their social networks. When pretense becomes a way of life, what follows is disengagement. This is because those who know each other in person would recognize what is happening. 

It’s not too different in family relationships, workplace relationships or in friendships between friends. Two people who live together or work with each other or are related to each don't even say 'Hello' or "How do you feel?" in real life but they send out the sweetest messages on Facebook, WhatsApp - what's the false exhibition for? I haven't been able to figure it out - why do people act like fakes?

But the fact remains that this bout of pretension is long-lasting and far more damaging than natural disasters like the tsunami. Sadly, it is spreading, fast.

All of this takes me back to a golden era when a ten rupee note or a handful of freshly minted coins from a grandparent was treasured like gold – not because of the number it stood for, but because of the sanctity of the relationship with the giver.

Where have those days gone? Wish I had the answers. Do you? 

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