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Parenting together with love and limits: 7 Time Management Tips to Manage a Super Busy Family Schedule

Last Friday, it was Holi, the festival of colours. Guess what I wanted to do? Sleep!  [MUST READ: A Dad's Advice to the Daughter he loves]

I know what you are thinking, ''What kind of mother wants sleep on Holi?" 

I do. Yup! But what happened is the opposite. That's life, isn't it?



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During Holi, I was busy cooking, washing the dishes, moping the floor that had messy footprints.  Yup, welcome to the Working Mom's home life on a 'Holi' day:)

Now I have put together a few things which helps me to stay focused:

1. Start the morning with something that perks you up

Anything that lifts your  dormant energy (remember, you woke up from sleep, right?) can work to get your morning rocking. What perks me up is the view from my balcony while I make tea.While the tea leaves boil, the view keeps me grounded and calm as I prepare my mind for a busy day. I see the sky light up slowly, the colours deftly changing and the chai is almost ready. I also use this time to take stock of things that I need to buy as kitchen provisions/groceries for the week. 

2. Use short 'time pockets' to get things done

There are 'time pockets' as I like to call them, which mark short intervals between activities during a day. I like to use these time pockets to get tasks done, make calls and do little chores around the house, like folding the laundry, cleaning and dusting, checking what bills need to be taken care of and when, sorting out school projects and their delivery timelines but these intervals help to take deep breaths, plan better and finish tasks on time. 

3. Schedule family time, mark boundaries for weekends
If you are a working mother, you already know that the toughest challenge is to schedule your family time. Week-wise planning helps. I like to factor in slots for 'unexpected' things  in advance so that I can also balance it with community related activities as well. My weekends are specifically scheduled with activities right from Friday even to make sure that we, as a family, spend time together.  Before I became a mother, weekends were for late night parties and we used to crash back home as late as 2 am, but not anymore. 


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4. Evolve a system of Checks and Balances
As a working mother, I value the support that I receive from my family. One of the things that helps me get things done is that we have a system of checks and balances, yes - just like in a democracy, where we gently nudge each other on meeting specific timelines on tasks. To do this every day is not easy but being consistent becomes important.

5. Sharing responsibilities
Dumping all the work on a woman indicates that something is definitely not right in a family's ecosystem, especially when both husband and wife are working.  Nothing brings a family together the way sharing responsibilities does.  I love the sense of positive energy that shared responsibilities bring to our life.

6. Carpools for birthday parties and kids activities

For combined kids activities and birthday parties, carpooling works as it saves considerable time and effort, but I don't try this with all mothers. I keep it to a selective few. The fun part of car pooling is that most kids are so thrilled about this as an activity that they love to coordinate and get it going.



7.  Pray Together
Expressing gratitude is a daily routine in my life. My son and I pray together and I love how it brings us closer to each other. It brings a beautiful, feel-good energy. [READ: Five Powerful Ways to Teach Your Child to Care]

From doing things together to spending time together, what matters is to utilise time mindfully and responsibly to create happy moments for our families. 

Nothing is more important than raising a child responsibly and mindfully. Now do tell me: How do you manage your hectic schedule? Do you have any time management strategies that work well for you? I'd love to hear from you! 

Comments

Lensq said…
How do you manage to get your own space and time to write in this busy schedule?
@LensQ: Thanks for this question. We all have our pain points when it comes to finding the time to write. Planning, prioritizing and freezing a time slot to write helps me.

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